Friday, September 20, 2013

COMFORT that decided to make a change.

I wasn't going to come on here just yet, but I think what a better time to with today's prompt post from Jenni. I have gone through a lot of different things over the past couple of months and I recently decided the other day to stop what I have here. Maybe for short time period or maybe altogether.. who really knows. I know this space her as been a comfort.. and always hasn't been what I had hoped or plan for. I felt I needed something new, something fresh and I decided to go on a new journey with a new blog that is more personal and for me. Change sometimes is hard, but for me this I felt was something that I needed to do because I have been fighting through this for a very long time and this opportunity came up for me to do just that and create what I really want to create in my new space. Everything that is here, will stay here.. I won't be dragging it along onto my new space, so if you liked anything here you can check it out her whenever, because I won't be deleting this space. However, my new space already has it's first post up and my little explanation as a opener. I don't think I need to reiterate the same thing I opened with on my new space here. I am sorry for those that loved what I had on here or maybe didn't or maybe was hoping for more but felt like this blog was a dangling string at sometimes.. while also being all over the place with nothing really going the way I had said it would. Comfort for me has been from 2010-2013 of September on this blog and a new change occurred in my life and so a new change had to happen for me somewhere else as well. If you had added me onto bloglovin' I also included my new blog within bloglovin as well, so it can be easily accessed. If you want to join me on my new journey feel free to over here. However, if you don't want to I completely understand and no heart feelings if want to not continue onto something new with me. Some times being comfort doesn't really get you anywhere or places and you are just standing in the same spot. I feel like here I have been doing that. There is a lot of things I have wanted to do on here but never felt I could, even though this is my blog. The direction I had wanted it to go, wouldn't really make it reasonable to mention all these things. I am very grateful for those who have stuck with me or recently added or found me but I truly grateful if you decide to continue on my journey to something new, pure and fresh over HERE. Thank you, truly.

Signed, Joe

Monday, September 9, 2013

ISFJ, that's me!

Hey Daisy Blossom's!

It is Monday, September 9 : Take this short personality test and respond to your results. (at the end, find the detailed profile of your personality account - click "click to view" under "You" and "self awareness and personal growth." You can even google your type and find more info on it!) 

Funny I was going to talk about this before this challenge started and then I saw it on here, so I waited. In the past I took the test on a different site here if curious. The first time I ever did it a while while while back I got personality style INFJ. And so I did it today from the website that Jenni shared and got ISFJ. The site that I did for my ever first time is more broad range of answers to choose, where as the one Jenni shared is just the typical yes or no. I actually like the version I tried for the first time today. It was very interesting because it does replicate who I am a lot after having read my results and looking more in depth info on the net. I shared mine with my friend this morning and and agreed that it sounded like me. 

It was super interesting to learn and I honestly think this was dead on about me, because really people change, grow and learn new things in life. At first I was like wow when i saw what came up this morning even though it hasn't been my first time ever doing one of these. Sometimes, things take you by surprise sometimes, you know or not really but to see it in front of you and go wowza, so true! ha! I will share some things on here for you to view that is talked about that related to me and almost kind of made me go this is pretty dead on and things I have experienced in the past couple of months that I definitely agree with. 

- "People with ISFJ personality type often have very good memory and exceptional imagination. These traits can manifest themselves in a variety of ways. For instance, an ISFJ can easily notice discrepancies in someone's story when the person repeats it again after a long period of time; ISFJs also find it very easy to choose the right gifts for persons they know well; finally, they may have no difficulties whatsoever making and maintaining personal and professional connections simply because they remember so many details about other people's lives and habits -- a very unusual trait for an introvert."  tidbit here
[The good memory, is definitely true! I hear it from a lot of people how I remember something they said or said they like and they could have told me ages ago, but I remember! I also definitely notice when things don't add up in a story after hearing it repeated again. When it comes to gifts, I do have an easy time choosing the right gifts for people, because I always get the things they want or have mentioned, whereas the how did you remember that comes into play! I would have to also agree on remembering something someone said a long time ago and I'll bring it up and some people are like whoa, how do you remember that. I just do, ha.] 

- "ISFJs tend to overload themselves with work, but their kindness is abused just as often as it is respected." [I would have to say this is definitely true that my kindness does get abused and I know all my friends can vouch for me on this one. It's a funny thing, because I was having conversations about this with my friends not too long ago before I moved for school and I will definitely say this something that does happen.] 

- "ISFJa rarely sit idle - there is always a worthy cause awaiting their attention. Most personalities are quite willing to reciprocate when it comes to good deeds; however, ISFJs take that to a higher level, often going above and beyond what is actually expected of them."
[I admittedly admit that I will go above and beyond when helping people or not even if they need my help but say for example they're going on a trip I will send a list of different things to check out on their vacation if I have been there before even if they didn't ask me to. The sitting, as all my friend know yeah that is not me at all. I am always on the go or doing something; I am definitely always busy one way or other with different things.] 

- "ISFJ friends stick to their commitments and do their best to fulfill their promises." tidbit here
[I will definitely say that is 100% true. I will stick through a commitment even if I am sick or whatever the case and I know some of my friends are like I don't know how you do it, but also I do it to because I know scheduling wise it may not work out for quite some time, so I rather stick to it and commit even if I am sick.] 

- "Very Supportive. ISFJs are always willing to help other people, sharing their knowledge and experience with their colleagues, classmates or friends. People with this personality type strive for win-win situations, choosing empathy over judgment wherever possible. tidbit here
[I am definitely supportive of others and things that happen. It doesn't matter if it something bad, sad, whatever the emotion or situation I am always willing to listen and help anyway I can. I think that is why also a lot of people have told me things that they would never told others, because I don't judge and I also don't see the point in doing that, especially things that I have gone through number one and number two not everybody walks the same path, so who am I to judge what is right or wrong in your life.] 

- " Loyal and hard-working. ISFJs are very loyal and often get emotionally attached to a specific idea or a company. They will work very hard and do everything they can to meet their obligations. [I do work hard for sure, with out a doubt. All my friends and people I have worked with that always say that about me and have heard it from every job I have worked. I like to get the job done, so once I do something I make sure it is done even if I have to stay a little bit or a whole lot, it doesn't matter I get it completed.] 

- " Too altruistic. ISFJs tend to be very good-natured, warm individuals and they are likely to find it difficult to refuse requests for help. Unfortunately, this often results in the ISFJ getting overloaded with other people's work or problems. [I will have to admit this is true and is definitely for sure a weakness of mine. I do at time become overwhelmed with so much of other people's problems and such that it's too much for me.] 

- "ISFJs are often unappreciated, at work, home, and play. Ironically, because they prove over and over that they can be relied on for their loyalty and unstinting, high-quality work, those around them often take them for granted -- even take advantage of them." tidbit here
[Again, as I mentioned above this is very true the taking advantage of and it's also because I do put in the work and beyond and am someone that someone can rely on if they need something.] 

- " While their work ethic is high on the ISFJ priority list, their families are the centers of their lives. ISFJs are extremely warm and demonstrative within the family circle -- and often possessive of their loved ones, as well. [ I definitely care about my family a lot and will do anything for them. I will always be there any way that I can possible and I try hard to be involved and have that connection to family for sure, over these last couple of years.] 

- "ISFJs learn best by doing, rather than by reading about something in a book, or applying theory. tidbit here
[I definitely am someone who has to learn by doing it for sure to learn.]

a famous person with my same personality type Mother Theresa tidbit here

This is my personality and thank you so much for taking the time to read it. If you are the same as me, leave a comment below I guess, if you want! :) 

Signed, Joe

Thursday, September 5, 2013

some advice passed on from someone to me and now to you

Hey Daisy Blossom's!

Today's topic is :
Thursday, September 6th, 2013 : Pass on some useful advice or information you learned and always remembered.

When it comes to advice that I have learned / remembered I would have to say the advice that I have received recently from many with all different perspectives to it. The latest is to "network" (as most people may want to call it now a days), say hi to people. People always have something to talk about and are willing to talk to you. Even if their are shy, you can say a simple hi and something you like their wearing. You can go further by saying hi along with asking their name, where they're from etc and you may find something in common. You may become good friends, perhaps just acquaintances or won't have to see them ever again, whatever the case a simple hi, hello is very easy task at hand to open the line of communication and to gain new connections.
Another thing that I learned was to say YES to everything (minus the obvious bad choices - i think that should be pretty self explanatory), because sometimes you say no to things and you don't even know what you're saying no to. Sometimes those YES' land you in those in the right moment at the right time kind of deal that you hear some people talk about. Honestly, when you think about it, it's true. Hey, yeah maybe you'll think you hate but end up having a good time or maybe you will actually hate it but you won't have to ever go back again. At least you experienced it once and can you went or done it. Who know's what will come about for you! :) The next thing that I have learned is ALWAYS listen to your GUT/INTUITION which ever you want to call it. It knows a lot better than your mind would, so listen to it. There obviously is a reason why you have that feeling, it is telling you something, so instead of ignoring it, listen to it. You never know what trouble it could keep you out of or what cool opportunity you just let yourself have because you went with your gut. When you allow yourself to meet people you create and you create a connection, you may have opened yourself an opportunity of greatness. I think the last piece of advice that I think goes along with this whole theme is be YOU, be yourSELF and people will like you for that.
If they don't they aren't right for you. Don't compensate yourself to fit in, so people like you. People should like you for who you are and the uniqueness that you carry within you and shine out. Because no one can be you but you, so do you and be happy. Make yourself HAPPY first and foremost before anybody else (i know it's easier said than done right?!) If their is something you need to do because you help others all the time and not yourself, do you and make it happen for your self. If you don't care of yourself, who will? If you don't love yourself, how do you expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself first?! 

So to break it down in point form for those of you that want to skim through...

1. network
2. say YES!
3. listen to your GUT/INTUITION 

Happy Thursday!

p.s - I thought I was going to so this challenge along with my own things on my blog but I truthfully don't have time with school to put up more than one post. I hope that is understandable and enjoy all the things I write about for the questions this month. Thank you again for reading my blog. I truly appreciate it a ton! 

Signed, Joe

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

new york city love

Hey Daisy Blossom's!

Wednesday, September 4th : If you could take three months off from your current life and do anything in the world, what would you do?
from pinterest 

It's the second day of the challenge and this was an easy answer for me. I didn't need to think about it at all, it's an automatic that everybody that knows me, has known about my love for New York city forever and ever. This is what I would do with my three months, indulge in the life, city and culture of New York. I would soak up every little thing and experience everything possible. I would take TONS of photos, enjoy tons of new eatery places, just be apart of the city the way my heart is fully of it since forever and ever from the time I was young. New York has been something inside of me since I was young that I cannot explain when people ask why.. it's just always been there. I treasure it, love it and bright lights.. like my blog name is why I named it bright lights because of New York City. It's just a place where I see big dreams are made of and could come true. NEW YORK has my HEART & LOVE. I know it's pretty short, but it is also pretty simple sweet answer for me, with not a whole lot to really explain. It's something that is inside of my heart forever and doesn't leave. This is how I would spend 3 months of my life if I had the opportunity too! :) 

p.s - I still get to see my love of New York through the blog and eyes of Taza and her family. If you love New York as much as I do, then I would recommend checking out her blog for all love of New York. click here

Signed, Joe

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

what I come from

Hey Daisy Blossom's!
& Good Day to Tuesday! 

I have decided to join on in with SOML Blogtember challenge!! Yaaay! I love doing these challenges that she makes, they're awesome and always good questions to write to which I love writing! I will get into today's topic and leave you with the link here for the wrote she wrote for today's topic, if you wanted to take a read yourself. :) 

Tuesday September 3rd : Describe where or what you come from. The people, the places, and/or the factors that make up who you are. 

If I start off where I come from it would be the start of my grandparents on both sides of my families then my actually parents. Why I say my grandparents is because they worked so hard back in those days. They had a work ethic that got instilled into their children, which became my parents. The work ethic definitely got passed down onto me, along with manners, helping people and etc. (all the good stuff you learn and hear stories about from your grandparents). Also back then the roles were more defined in those days and strict this is what this person is expected to do etc. Where as now it's either or with many choices and options. I definitely got a lot of value instilled in me from my grandparents for sure on my dad's side, because I would see them regularly growing up for all the holidays and some non holidays. There is always stories, laughter etc. As for my mom's side I never really grow up around or seen that much to be honest however, via communication telephone and good old fashion snail mail. I still snail mail with my auntie. As I got older I seen my family on my mom's side more, and I had just went to my grandmothers 100th birthday last March! How many people can say they have lived to see a milestone like that or witness it even? It was an amazing opportunity and she obviously isn't 100 percent in remembering things. Boy, did I hear some stories from others about her at her birthday that I never heard and I even heard her talking and about a story. It actually made me tear up because I didn't get to hear or experience all those because the travel of Canadian soil and Caribbean is not very close, you know? When it comes now to my parents, definitely hard work and doing things fully to the fullest potential possible or don't bother to do it at all is what I would say has made up some of who I am. It doesn't matter what it is, always give your best. I would even go beyond to say that I also learn from my family on my dad's like my aunts, uncles and cousins because I would see them all the time as well for gatherings at my grandparents, which is now only my grandmas. I learn a lot from all my family members, they always try to encourage different things, learn new things about what's going on with you and make sure everything is okay. Ah, Yes.. that is also another thing that is a big part of my family is communication and knowing what goes on. And I am not going to lie, it has it's pros and cons at times. However, it also makes us close in the sense of knowing what is going on with each other, but I will say as getting older everyone goes there ways and things. The parents keep the most contact and the cousins I would say just go with the flow really at this point, because everyone is on different paths and such but we keep in touch here and there. As for instant me, I recently started getting close to people in my family, because I never really shared anything not only with my family but with anyone. It's good to have people to go to and talk about things, help out or just to hang out around and being in there surrounds. I like that I got the family oriented instilled within me also, because there is a lot of people who don't and not really sure about certain things. However, even though I grow up around that there are times in my life also that I didn't want to be apart of that aspect because a number of inner self reasons. As you get older, learn new things, learn new things about yourself, what you like or don't like, can handle and can't handle.. you realize a number of different things. You take what you want to become apart of you and what you don't. Life is a big jigsaw puzzle and their are always pieces to stick together to work in or figure out etc. My grandma on my moms side is Caribbean and my dad's grandparents / now grandma is German+Norwegian and I believe also in those cultures family is a big thing instilled within along with working hard as well. 

I hope that told you a bit .. if you have any questions or anything leave them below or send me an email! 

Have a Happy Tuesday! :) 

Signed, Joe

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

grateful / thankful wednesdays

Hey Daisy Blossom's!

It's Wednesday and possibly this post or if not this Friday's will be the last for a wee little bit until I move and get settled in. And no I don't have any pre-scheduled posts for you guys, which I am sorry for that but I have been getting things together. On Tuesday was my last day of work also, so not a whole lot of time to make up posts before hand. I know I missed Monday, sorry again, but I hope you understand. This is a first-time thing, so it's pretty interesting to say the least with a lot of last minute errands, people to see and last minute things to get together. I have a quick hour to do this post before I am heading off to do something else again. I wanted to put this out there, in case anyone doesn't see anything posted from me for a while. ;)

Here is today's Wednesday post for you all! :) 

1. I am so grateful for all the love this past two weeks, but even more so this week because I know there are a lot who truly want me to be happy and have a good experience.
2. I am truly blessed for everything coming together and aligning because I know the universe wants this to happen for me.
3.  With all my heart, thank you for allowing one last visit, one last time with each of my core four before I head off because I know they're so supportive, encouraging and always share their best advice. 
4. I am truly grateful for technology, because it provides so many access ways to communicating.
5. With all my heart, thank you for all the support, love and interesting in the things I want to accomplish in my life because I know a lot people don't go after the very thing they want. 
6. I am truly blessed to have a place to live while in school and being able to make it my own space for the time that I am there, because that will be my place to eat, sleep, study, communicate along with watch my shows. 
7. I am so grateful for the new experiences, new people, new life, new challenges, new atmosphere, new chapter, new room, new friends, new opportunities, new learning experience, all new everything because I know this journey is going to be an amazing journey that I will get to share with my close friends back home but also I get to live, share, give my wisdom to someone or inspire someone.
8. I am truly grateful for all the amazing things in life such as water, food, electricity, heat, air conditioning, air because being able to have all those makes life amazing.
9. With all my heart, thank you for the little ones in my life and the littlest one going to come very soon before Christmas because I know they're smart, kind, beautiful, intelligent souls with an incredible future ahead of them.
10. I am so grateful for possibility of becoming and being open, because I know people can notice a difference in energy and I know this has helped me for the new adventure going to take place now. 

Happy Wednesday!

Signed, Joe

Friday, August 23, 2013

life is all about moments of impact

Hey Daisy Blossom's!

It's Friday and time to write whatever this little heart desires for today's journal Friday! First to start off this post, the jam I was listening to while writing this is summertime sadness by Lana Del Rey. It is sad in the sense that everything is pretty much over, done and becoming a new chapter. A new beginning, like a new season and the fall gets the lucky chance to start off the new adventure, experiences and everything else that is going to come about to happen. It is going to end with the spring, the essence of new life, fresh beginnings which will be of summertime break all the way up until August. I will get four glorious months to spend as much and TONS of time with the amazing people that I wouldn't have the opportunity to see for the next couple of months. Yes, I get some days off but very few when you're in the big leagues of things. These very last couple of days left that I have [exactly a week] will be the defining moments. Those moments will make the hugest impact for sure! It's going to be mind-blowing insane. It will come with a ton of new adjustments, which I am not totally sure of right at this moment. In the grand scheme of things in the beginning it sounds amazing and all these ideas come into your head, but when it comes to the actually time.. it's a roller coaster of emotions and thoughts. "If your dreams don't scare you they're not big enough" correct?! However, at the moment lately everyone asks how I am and to be honest I am really more anxious wanting the first day to get here while at the same time to be gone. Yet, I say that however the thought of taking it all in really matters also. This is only going to happen once and most likely something I will remember for the longest of times or maybe I won't really remember to look that far back.. who knows?! Life likes to give you experiences when you least expect them to come into your life. I am unsure of the whole picture as to the move to the first day of orientation. Past those and go into the school work I think I will be fine, more than fine. I will be great, because great things are possible if you want them to happen. I think the thing that makes me the most nervous is not having the known, the familiarity, a safe haven in the sense of just calling up my friends to hangout whenever and talk upon hours. I know that aspect isn't only affecting just myself. I know the feeling along with the thought is mutual and spring will be here in no time again. The safe haven that I have known for twenty-five years is now drastically changing. I know a lot people are happy for me, knowing everything is going to go good and work out. I myself am not so sure at all what to expect to be honest; I think about the homesickness. I am guilty of it throughout different occasions in my life. I hope I can push through it or maybe I am psyching myself out and everything will flow fine. I know so far God has allowed amazing opportunities to come into my life. And I am sure he will continue to provide a great magnificent guidance on this journey and I know there is a guardian surrounding me. I am very definite and sure it is the pure love my grandpa. I know everything will work out plus go well because with God he will make anything possible. e'll love unconditionally and he will always be there no matter what. I am just hoping I survive the first couple days so far but even more so the month. If I make it to thanksgiving I know I can pass through the rest until Christmas break. I know anything is possible. I know this ... God knows what you're capable of. God can see the seeds of great he's placed in you. 

Happy Friday!
Happy Weekend!

Signed, Joe